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How to Start a Side Hustle: Test the Waters

October 27, 2010 | By Rosetta |

This is the fourth post in the How to Start a Side Hustle series.

If you have any sort of talent or passion, you can definitely use your education, experience and entrepreneurial spirit to earn more money for your household with a side hustle. You might even call it the new overtime for folks who want to earn additional income beyond their full-time jobs. If you’re thinking about going out on your own, I strongly encourage you to test the waters first. As you begin to experiment with letting people know about your services or products, you will begin to encounter opportunities to actually make good on your side hustle and determine if it’s actually a viable idea and something you enjoy. Here are a few ways that I tested the waters to obtain my first clients while I still had a full-time gig.

Tell People What You Do

When I was a Development Director at my previous organization, I would meet other nonprofit leaders at events and tell them that I managed the fundraising for the organization. Since most nonprofits struggle with raising money, it was a conversation starter where folks often ended up asking me about fundraising trends or advice on how to find good grantwriters. As a result of my networking, I was asked to provide pro-bono training for a nonprofit board of directors to get them more engaged in fundraising. I was thrilled to do it because it gave me experience in delivering a workshop to board members and the nonprofit also gave me a great reference on LinkedIn for potential clients to see!

Give Away Stuff for Free

You might consider giving away products for free on your blog or setting up a table at a festival to see if there is any interest in free samples of your wares. Use your friends, family and colleagues as guinea pigs to test out your product or service to see if it’s really something that customers would pay for. The possibilities are endless because no one can say no to free!

Volunteer to Do Pro-Bono Consulting

Providing pro-bono support for a company can be an easy way to gain experience and build confidence in your consulting abilities. Especially if you don’t have 10 or 20 years of work experience under your belt, it can be really difficult to convince yourself that you have something so amazing to offer an organization that they would pay you for it. In my earlier example, I did a free workshop for a nonprofit board of directors. Because I was doing the work for free, it eased some of the pressure. To get started on your own side hustle, you might give away your services to friends and colleagues and then ask them to write testimonials for you for your website or promotional materials.

Speak for Free

My very first speaking engagement was as a panelist for an event discussing African American leadership in the nonprofit field. I looked at the current speaker list and realized that there were no young leaders slated to talk about our experiences. So I emailed the conference organizer with my bio, we followed up with a phone conversation, and they added me to the panel. I prepared and overprepared and gave the best remarks I could. Then, people began to contact me for other speaking opportunities as a result of seeing me on that panel. And guess what? The second speaking engagement after that first one I did for free was actually PAID. If you want to get into the spotlight, public speaking is a great way to start to share your expertise within professional networks. But don’t wait for someone to ask you to participate in an event or conference; the first step may be you reaching out to them. It’s great exposure, and you never know how many potential clients might be in the audience. Also, be sure to keep a good bio handy for when you see an opportunity to volunteer your time and expertise.

Are you thinking about getting started with a side hustle?  What are some other ways to test the waters?

Up Next: How to Start a Side Hustle: 28 Passion-Based Business Ideas You Can Launch Online

 

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Is It Time to Reset Your Life?

October 26, 2010 | By Rosetta |

My Aunt Joyce has always had a keen eye for interior design. She spends her weekends watching Home & Garden TV and scouting department stores for discounted decor. You walk into her house to beautiful flooring, trendy furniture, candle collections, vases of flowers in each corner, a lovely centerpiece on the table. Her passion in life is to make her surroundings as beautiful as possible, and it’s obvious that this skill comes to her naturally. She looks forward to her HGTV weekends all the more because she really hates her job and even her field of work – logistics support – and the demeaning way her supervisors treat her. But with only a high school diploma in a competitive job market, her options are limited. If only she could pursue another path that would allow her to do the kind of work she loves – interior design. If only she could reset her life.

Hip-hop group Outkast came out with a great song on their Speakerboxx album a few years ago called “Reset”. The whole song is about finding your destiny and following your dreams because life is just too damn short.

Start over again
Everything happens for a reason
Good doesn’t come without pain

As you listen to the rhymes of Big Boi, Khujo Goodie and Cee-Lo, you can’t help but be inspired that it is indeed possible to start over again.  You might be like my aunt, struggling to figure out where you need to go next and how you can muster the courage to take that first step.  This is all a part of the leadership of our daily lives – thinking about who we are, what the hell are we doing here, and then acting on our sense of purpose.

For many of us, however, it’s not that easy to change course. Many of us have made certain decisions early on in life that kept us from doing what we really wanted to do. And now you might be feeling stuck. What circumstances have you settled for despite a persistent feeling that it isn’t right for you? What dreams have you put on hold (or given up on) because you think they’re “unrealistic?” Confronting these questions could be the first step in resetting your life and getting back on track to living your ideal life.

Because contrary to what your lizard brain is telling you, good enough is just not good enough. And the Daily OM reminds us that we all pretty much already know, instinctively, what we need to do to change our lives. We just need to summon the light that’s already inside of us to help propel us to make that change.

Often, your inner voice will counsel you that it’s time for a change, and it is very important to trust yourself because only you know what is best for you. The choices you’ve made and the dreams you’ve held onto can give you an idea of what you don’t want to do anymore and what you might like to do next.

If you realize that you life is out of whack with the dreams you have for yourself, commit to take some action today. Do at least one thing every day to move past fear and get closer to your dreams. Want to go back to school? Get on the ‘net to gather information about your desired field of study. Call the admissions office to see what the process is like. Want to start a side hustle? Connect with other small business owners one day, the next day research web hosts for your new blog. You can build momentum toward your goal in baby steps.

It is when you are willing to listen to yourself and be fearless that figuring out your next step becomes easy. Beneath the fear and hesitation and uncertainty lies your inner knowing that always knows which step you need to take next.

Today is the day to reset your life and follow your dreams. You always have the option to start over. Yes, even you.

Before I go, I thought that you all should know this
Recognize and realize before any regretting
Before you relapse, perhaps you’ll consider resetting

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How to Start a Side Hustle: 4 Ways to Find the Extra Time to Work on Your Passion

October 21, 2010 | By Rosetta |

This is the third post in the How to Start a Side Hustle series.

“Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” — H. Jackson Brown

If you already work full-time, but want to make some extra cash, it can be hard to see how you’d ever have the time or the energy after a long day at work. Well, allow me to remind you that everyone has the same number of hours in a day. It’s what we do (or don’t do) with them that makes the difference. I share with you here a few tricks I used to get my consulting business up and running while I still had a full-time job.

Leave Work on Time

You know why you’re too tired to do anything after work? Because you stay there all night! Set boundaries on how late you stay after work. If you come in at 9:00am, plan your day so that you can end at 5:00 on the dot and head home to work on your side hustle. If you have a big project to complete at your company, make a project management schedule so you can work on it in chunks, rather than cramming it all in during a week that you may also have work due for a client.

Use Your Vacation Days

At my previous job, we had pretty good benefits. I had four weeks of vacation (five after three years) and I made sure to use all them babies up. I used one full week for an actual vacation to the tropical paradise of my choice, then the rest of the time I used for consulting and traveling around the country for speaking gigs. When a potential client contacted me, I got out my work calendar and scheduled any projects around holidays and weeks that I knew were clear for me to be out of the office. By doing it this way, I was able to put my full-time job first and not piss off my boss for missing any important deadlines or events for the organization.

Maximize Your Lunch Hour

If you must eat lunch at your desk, do double time while you’re sitting there! Instead of scrolling down Twitter with one hand and a pickle in the other, use your break time to send emails to prospective clients, make phone calls to schedule meetings, or jot down ideas in a “side hustle” journal. I keep a small notebook in my purse at all times, just in case I come up with a hot idea for generating more income. It really comes in handy when you only have a few snippets of free time during the day.

Stop Watching TV

People always ask me how I get so much done in my professional life and honestly, a big part of where I get “extra time” from is because I don’t watch TV. I’m working while everyone else is watching Real Housewives of Atlanta. And I really don’t think I’m missing out on anything. I stopped watching cable years ago in college for purely monetary reasons (I was not about to use my few little dollars to pay the cable man). But then I got so used to not watching TV that it didn’t make sense for me to buy cable even when I did start making enough money to pay for it. Good thing, because most people are so addicted to TV that they waste two and half months every year watching TV when they could be making progress on their goals. The average American watches an average of 5.1 hours per day, or 153 hours of TV a month. So believe me, you’ll be well ahead of the game if you cut back your time in front of the boob tube and use it to start your side hustle!

What other methods have you used to find more free time during your day to work on your side hustle?

Up Next: How to Start a Side Hustle: Test the Waters

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How to Start a Side Hustle: 5 Low-Cost Ways to Market Yourself

October 20, 2010 | By Rosetta |

This is the second post in the How to Start a Side Hustle series.

If you want to begin building any type of side hustle or consulting business, it’s really important to get your name out there. Why? Because people are more likely to buy products or services from people they know than a stranger. My experience was that I was able to launch my consulting career because of my blog. Here are five low-cost ways that you can spread the word about your expertise, services or products in order to attract your first client or customer.

Start a Blog

Blogs are the most low-cost websites you can set up to promote yourself and your side hustle. In fact, you don’t even need a blog AND a website these days. A blog will do just fine because it showcases your expertise on a regular basis, versus websites that are typically more static and don’t keep people coming back to hear what you have to say. Although most people still use blogging for personal use, one of the biggest benefits to having a more professional blog is that blogging can allow you to become well-known in your dream career niche or field. Need help getting started? Download my free ebook, The Complete Beginner’s Guide to Starting a Blog. It’s a 37-page resource to help you with all the aspects of blogging in order to build your personal brand!

Get Your Own Business Cards

This is one of the most important things you can do to market yourself and your side business. Ever since I was 18, I’ve had my own business cards. And even when I was working a full-time job, I kept a stack of business cards in my purse to let people know about my blog and where to contact me about my side hustle. My favorite place for business cards is Vistaprint. I’ve used them for the past 10 years because of their low cost, easy-to-use website and quick delivery. And when I say low cost, I mean low cost. New customers get 250 premium quality, color business cards free! (You just pay for shipping.) Click here to order yours. They also have a ton of professional business card templates, but I always keep mine very simple.

And don’t be afraid to tell people (on your business cards) that you have a side hustle! For instance, the backside of my business cards say “hire me” with the different consulting areas I work in. People always comment on how bold it is. But you have to remember that marketing yourself is like marketing a product. You have to tell people what action you want them to take after they see what you have to offer.

Attract Fans and Followers

If you want to market yourself and you’re not on Twitter by now, I don’t know what is wrong with you. You can get started using my Twitter 101 guide if that helps. Once you’re on Twitter, you should be following other people in your dream career field or niche as well as tweeting insights about those specific topics (and less tweeting about the TV shows you watch every night or how much you hate your job). If you have a blog, you should also set up a Facebook fan page for yourself in the “writer” or “website” category and link to it from your blog so people can keep up with your updates. Don’t forget to put your Twitter and Facebook names on your business cards!

Get on YouTube

People like TV. People like movies. People really like to connect with other human beings by face, so it makes sense that millions of people watch YouTube videos everyday. Yeah, you could wait until you get interviewed on TV, but in the meantime, the best way to let people get to know you by your face and voice is by posting video updates on YouTube. It’s easy and free! Pick a topic that you can share your expertise and opinion on and post a brief video about it every week or every month. It’s up to you. Just be sure to spread your videos far and wide once you take the plunge into YouTubeland. Need inspiration? Look no further than Kim Love. For the past two years, the natural hair enthusiast has used her YouTube channel, KimmayTube, to share her expertise with the world and recently leveraged it to launch a successful retail business.

Dust Off Your Email List

Chances are, you don’t email people in your network as much as you could. Yes, it’s nice to post updates on Facebook and Twitter, but alas, everyone is not on those social networks, and even if they are, you can best believe that they don’t read every single update you post. So, take a couple hours every month to use email to update your friends, family and trusted colleagues on your new career goals and what your future business goals are. Give them a reason to sing your praises or connect you with people in their network who may be doing similar work. I guarantee that there’s someone on your email list that will be interested in supporting your side hustle or willing to help you get to where you want to go!

What are some other low-cost ways you could market yourself in order to promote your side hustle?

Further Reading: How to Start a Side Hustle: 4 Ways to Find the Extra Time to Work on Your Passion

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The Paradox of Good Enough

October 19, 2010 | By Rosetta |

Sometimes change can seem so hard, so daunting, that we just stick to the status quo in our lives. “Oh, it’s good enough,” we’ll say. Or: “It’s not the best, but hey, it could be worse.”

Does any of this sound familiar?

Your job? It’s good enough for now. I mean, I wish I was doing something else, but at least I’m working when so many people are unemployed.

Your current boyfriend/jumpoff? He’s all right for now. He’s got issues, but it’s just something to do until the right one comes along.

Each of us probably has one or two or ten things in our lives that’s “just OK.” Even though we know it can be so much better. We even dream of the possibilities . . . until that damn lizard brain shows up to rain on our parade. The lizard brain asks dumb questions like:

Who are you to want something more?

Why are you so high maintenance?

Why can’t you just be happy with what you have?

With all of its insistent curiosity, though, the lizard brain never asks the really important questions that need to be answered as we move forward in our life journey.

What truly amazing relationship are you keeping yourself from by settling for one that’s just “good enough?”

What are you missing out on by staying in a dead-end job?

How are you limiting yourself by pretending to be content with your current state of being?

On it’s face, “good enough” seems like something to be happy about. But when you allow yourself to think about what you really want, you might find that you’re just settling out of fear that you won’t get it. Let’s keep it real with ourselves, shall we? If given a choice between good and great, most of us would probably choose the latter.

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How to Start a Side Hustle: An Overview (and My Journey to a Consulting Career)

October 14, 2010 | By Rosetta |

Now that I’m working for myself full-time, people often ask me how I got into consulting in the first place. It’s kind of a funny question to answer, though, because I never actually set out to be a consultant. Those of you who know me in my professional life know that I’ve been working in nonprofits since I was in college. I was so inspired by the work and found a niche in being able to put my otherwise-unmarketable English major skills to use in writing grant proposals. Then when I graduated, people told me I should move from Richmond, Virginia to Washington, DC because that’s where all the nonprofits were. And lo and behold they were right! I decided to pursue a Master’s degree in nonprofit management and did fundraising for almost eight years. Along the way, I got really interested in leadership development due to the organizations and programs I was working with. So in 2007, I started blogging about leadership issues in my industry. And then people actually started reading my blog and inviting me to come speak at events and do workshops and all kinds of other cool stuff. Then I started telling them they should pay me because, well, I just couldn’t do that much work for free.

And that’s how I became a consultant. It was really a blog that turned into a side hustle that turned into an opportunity for a brand new career.

In 2008, I announced Thurman Consulting for the very first time, even though I was still working a full-time job and had no intentions of leaving anytime soon. I did that to let people know that I was available for speaking and consulting, but that I wasn’t going to do it for free. Even if I wanted to, I just didn’t have the time while working a 9 to 5 job. I also wanted to make some extra money to supplement my nonprofit salary at the time. At the end of that first year, I had earned an additional $10,000 to add on to my income, which said to me that consulting might be something I could really make a living at!

It wasn’t until 2010, though, that I quit my nonprofit job of almost four years to work for myself as a consultant. By all accounts, it was a “good” job. The organization had a great reputation and inspiring leadership. It paid well, I had healthcare, a monthly employer contribution to my retirement plan equivalent to 10% of my salary, five weeks paid time off, money for professional development, flexible hours, the ability to work from home, and yes, my very own parking spot. To be honest, I probably could have worked there for four more years. But I wouldn’t have been happy. I had grown too much in my own leadership journey to continue to fit myself into that one role for that one organization. I would be writing a grant proposal, but daydreaming about blogging. I couldn’t wait to get home to start writing and working on my own projects. I’ve wanted to write a book for a couple of years, but could never seem to find the time to do it. I just didn’t want to work myself to death and wait until my 60s to finally start living the life I wanted.

I didn’t want to wait any longer to become the CEO of me. Today, I’m the President of Thurman Consulting, specializing in leadership, diversity and social media initiatives to advance the work of social change. It’s been an amazing journey to be able to get to do what I love and get paid for it, too! And best of all, it’s on my own terms.

I’ve come across a lot of happy black women who are thinking about going out on their own. You may want to start small in the hopes of leaving your job one day. You may just want to make some extra money. Whatever your reason, this blog series is for you. I titled the series “How to Start a Side Hustle” because I strongly suggest hanging your own shingle while you still have the security of a full-time job. This blog series will offer some of the lessons learned from my own experiences in laying the groundwork and then branching out on my own over a two-year period.

But first, an overview.

What’s a Side Hustle?

Let me explain what I mean with that term. A side hustle is a job that you do on the side in addition to your full-time job. Whether you do consulting or bake cakes to sell at the farmer’s market on the weekend, a side hustle is when you provide products or services in order to make money on the side. Typically, you would take something you’re good at (or passionate about) and offer it to people who want it. That sweet spot of skill and demand is your side hustle, baby!

A few synonyms for a side hustle:

  • Part-time job
  • Second job
  • Small business
  • Side business
  • Slash career

Examples of side hustles:

  • Consulting
  • Catering
  • Tutoring
  • Photography
  • Blogging
  • Public speaking
  • Babysitting
  • Avon/Mary Kay
  • Ebay seller
  • Crafting/jewelry

And the list goes on and on. What are some side hustle ideas that you could try?

What’s Consulting?

As I mentioned above, consulting is just one example of a side hustle. Believe it or not, a lot of side hustles actually fall into the consulting category. When you say consulting, most people think of the common Webster definition, which is to provide professional or expert advice. In recent years, though, that definition is actually expanded to include subcontracting and project management. In other words, consulting is not just someone paying someone else for advice, but it also includes paying someone to actually implement or deliver a particular portion of the work.

A few synonyms for consulting:

  • subcontracting
  • freelancing
  • independent consulting
  • coaching
  • moonlighting

Some examples of consulting projects:

  • Website creation
  • Conference planning
  • Training and workshops
  • Strategic planning
  • Meeting and retreat facilitation
  • Executive coaching
  • Copywriting

The possibilities for consulting are endless, just like with any other side hustle!

What Do Aspiring Consultants Need to Know?

When I first started thinking about consulting two years ago, Entrepreneur.com was like my electronic bible. This article alone has enough general information in it to give you a really thorough overview of what consulting looks like as a side business. I also rely heavily on Inc. Magazine for entrepreneurial advice. Other really good information networks for consultants include Freelance Switch, Freelance Folder, Freelancers Union and of course Pam Slim’s Escape from Cubicle Nation. There are a TON of resources out there, including Entrepreneur Magazine’s extensive library of books to help you start your own business.

One thing I quickly learned is that you don’t really need much by way of paperwork to get started if you are going by your real name. Since I do business as Rosetta Thurman/Thurman Consulting (and not a more generic company name like Enlightened Diva Strategies or something), all I had to do was register with my state. But you should always check your local laws for sure.

Is a Side Hustle for You?

I have to be honest here in terms of my experience – consulting (or any side hustle, for that matter) is really hard to do when you already have a full-time job. But if you’re like me five years ago when I had to work part-time as a hostess at a chain restaurant to make my nonprofit paycheck stretch a little further, consulting might just be a welcome addition to your life. But it does take some serious organizational skills to hold down a regular job and then go home at night or on the weekends to do client work.

Stay tuned over the next few weeks for posts about my journey into the consulting world from side hustle to full-time, including how to get your name out there, how to get your first client or contract, and how to find extra time to do the work. In the meantime, please post any resources you know of in the comments!

Up Next: How to Start a Side Hustle: 5 Low-Cost Ways to Market Yourself

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The Magical World of Possibility

October 12, 2010 | By Rosetta |

“A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world: everyone you meet is your mirror.” – Ken Keyes, Jr.

One of the most important things I’ve learned in my short years of life is that there is more than one world out there: a loving world and a hostile world. Your perspective is everything. Two people can look at the same situation yet have totally different reactions.

Getting dumped by a boyfriend:

I can’t believe this is happening to me. I’ll never find anyone else. Surely I’ll die alone.

OR

I can’t believe this is happening to me. Oh well, his loss. On to the next!

Losing your job:

This is the worst thing that’s ever happened to me. I’m a total loser and no one will ever want to hire me again.

OR

This is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I hated that job anyway, but I was too scared to leave. Now I can pursue bigger and better opportunities!

See the difference? It’s all about perspective. And the best thing about having multiple worlds is that you get to choose which one you want to live in.

Not so long ago, I was the total opposite of a happy black woman.

I was mad as hell. I was mad at my mom for not knowing how to be a mom. I was mad at my father for being so selfish as to take his own life. I was mad at my grandfather for dying on me before he could see me graduate from college. I was mad at each of my consecutive boyfriends for not fitting into the molds that I had created for them. I carried around a lot of resentment and I was always trying to change people. It was extremely unhealthy, to say the least.

Then one day, I decided that I wanted to live in a different world. I wanted to live in a world of abundance instead of scarcity. I wanted to live in a loving world instead of a hostile one. I wanted to live in the magical world of possibility. Quite simply, I just wanted to finally be happy after being so mad all the damn time. And ever since I changed my perspective on different things, it has, indeed been a magical world for me. It’s free of projecting my own fears and insecurities onto others. It’s free of everyone else’s fears and insecurities projected onto me. It’s a world that honors authenticity when so much around me is contrived and fake. It’s a world that demands that I give my best and expect the best in others. It’s a world that challenges me to always choose love over fear.

It’s a world that proves to me over and over that there is nothing I cannot do. Anything, anywhere is possible.

Care to join me? It’s amazing here.

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What Would Your Life Be Like With Less Stuff? (A Lifestyle Experiment)

October 7, 2010 | By Rosetta |

They say that money can’t buy happiness. Indeed, financial journalist and motivational speaker Jean Chatzky breaks down the science of happiness, pointing out that since “there’s little difference in the overall happiness of millionaires and the middle class, “we’re better off buying experiences rather than things.”

The idea is that because novelty is so stimulating, the more new experiences you have, the happier you’ll be.

I’ve always tended to agree with that sentiment. I’ve never been a blow my paycheck at the mall kinda girl, though I did have those times once a season when I would drop a few hundred bones on the latest fashions. In general, I’d much rather save up for a trip to Jamaica than pay $300 for a pair of shoes. But even so, a few months ago, I began noticing a disturbing pattern. No matter how much I washed, my two laundry baskets were always full. How could it be that I always have dirty clothes? I finally admitted to myself that I have way too many clothes.

Apparently, I’m not the only one rethinking my approach to consumerism. A recent New York Times article sheds light on the fact that Americans are spending less overall, or at least thinking more carefully about their purchases.

“We’re moving from a conspicuous consumption — which is ‘buy without regard’ — to a calculated consumption,” says Marshal Cohen, an analyst at the NPD Group, the retailing research and consulting firm.

While calculated consumption might be bad news for retailers, it’s nothing but good news for consumers like you and me. You see, buying less stuff can actually make us happier.

New studies of consumption and happiness show, for instance, that people are happier when they spend money on experiences instead of material objects, when they relish what they plan to buy long before they buy it, and when they stop trying to outdo the Joneses.

The Lifestyle Experiment

In this particular lifestyle experiment, I knew that most of the effects would be permanent. I mean, once you get rid of stuff, it’s gone for good. My original goal was to eliminate at least 75% of my clothing. I’ve actually always wanted to see if I could exist with only a few items of clothing – good quality items that I could wear over and over. Mainly because it used to take me forever to figure out what to wear. Too many damn choices. As of right now, I’ve gotten rid of 50% of my clothes and already my tiny apartment feels so much lighter. And I’ll be ditching some more stuff once I finally do my fall wardrobe changover. It has to go if:

  • I haven’t worn it all summer.
  • I haven’t worn it in six months.
  • I have never worn it.
  • I don’t really like it.
  • I shoulda never bought it.

People will say, oh no, you’re wasting money! No, actually I’m not. As Zen Habits points out:

You bought these items with hard-earned money, and you don’t want that money to go to waste, so you’ve been holding onto them. It’s a burden that keeps you from freeing yourself of these unneeded possessions — it forces to you keep the space they occupy, to maintain these possessions, to constantly see them every day even if you don’t want them, to walk around them or trip over them or live in a cramped, cluttered space. This is a burden, paying penance for your initial wasted expenditure of cash. But: the waste was when you bought it, not when you get rid of it. You bought something you didn’t really need — and the real waste would be to ignore this and not learn from it.

Enough said. I’m not about to waste this opportunity to release myself from the burden of keeping a whole bunch of stuff that I don’t need.

Results So Far

As I mentioned, I’ve gotten rid of 50% of my clothes so far, in addition to about the same reduction in my shoe collection. I even purged my kitchen of most of the dishes I had…like I really need 20 plates for a studio apartment with one person living in it. I also haven’t bought any new clothes since March and I’ve been just fine in the fashion department. Now I actually get to wear the awesome clothes I have! I only kept the items I really liked, so getting dressed is more of no-brainer these days. I curb my desire for more stuff by staying away from the mall and not reading magazines like Lucky Mag, whose express purpose is to get you to spend too much money on clothing, accessories and body products. I’m finding that I am spending more of my money on experiences – going out to brunch with my family, happy hours with friends, trips out of town – experiences that I will remember over the course of my life.

Not surprisingly, I already feel a lot happier.

Are you drowning in stuff, clothes or otherwise? Can you imagine a life with less stuff?

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Four Ways to Move Past Fear and Make Progress on Your Career Goals

October 4, 2010 | By Rosetta |

Former pro hockey player Wayne Gretzky once said:

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

It makes perfect sense, yet every day, we pass up opportunities to take proactive steps to changing our lives and careers for the better. Mostly, we’re afraid. More specifically, we get stuck in the frame of thinking about what’s the worst that can happen? Often after answering this question, we realize that we really don’t have anything to be afraid of at all. But sometimes, it can actually take us even deeper into that place of fear. We might get further with our career goals if instead, we focused on the positive and then took actions based on the expectation of success. What if, instead, we asked ourselves, what’s the best that could happen?

Envision Your Ideal Future

Instead of focusing in on all the risks and failures that could occur as a result of you pursuing your goals, focus on a vision for the future that shows you enjoying your success and the fruits of your labor. In August, I announced my new consulting team, new logo and all the services my company is ready to offer. Scary? Hell yes. Even though the worst that can happen is that no one ever hires us. Which is highly unlikely. And the best that can happen? We will get to use our talents to help others in a huge, transformative way. That’s what I’m thinking about. That’s what I’m banking on. And positive energy only attracts more of itself from the universe. Try it. You’ll see. Make a firm commitment to moving forward on that one thing you really want to do in your career but keep putting off out of fear. Write an inspiring letter to your future self about how you want your life to be six months or a year from now.

Name the Fear

If you must, go ahead and give the fear a little attention. Name it. Acknowledge it. Let it know that you know it’s there. If you’re afraid of losing your job (or your mind), go ahead and say it out loud. If you’re afraid of failing, write it down in your journal somewhere. This is good to do. Because once you name the fear, it loses a bit of its power. And then, you get to plow right through, just like a buffalo.

Borrow Someone Else’s Swagger

Right before you go into that important meeting or launch that big project, channel the attitude of someone with an ego and bank account much bigger than yours. Sometimes before my speaking engagements, I’ll pretend like I’m Kanye West walking into the room with all that power. Pick your own alter ego. Everybody needs their own theme music. Mine is just always a little bit gangsta.

Jump the Fence

OK. At some point, you just have to make the leap and do the damn thing. There is no way you’ll ever find out if you’ve got what it takes to change your career until you try. Until you do. Not before. If you hate your job, take the first step today to find a new one. Update your resume. Ask for help. Just don’t complain about it. Not today.

And on the off chance that you do fail? Well, at least you’ll be closer to the finish line than you were when you weren’t even in the race.

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Are You Delaying Happiness?

September 21, 2010 | By Rosetta |

“To attract something that you want, become as joyful as you think that thing would make you. The joy, not the thing, is the point.” — Martha Beck

How would you finish this sentence? I’ll be totally happy once I ___________________.

There are a million ways people tend to fill in the blank. I’ll be totally happy once I:

…get a new job
…find a man
…lose weight
…move to another city
…finish school
…get a promotion
…earn more money
…win the lottery
…take a vacation
…get married
…have kids

Everyone has their own set of goals. But if we’re really honest with ourselves, happiness is always the ultimate goal, we just hope the accomplishments we get along the way will make us so.

Think about it.

Why do you want to earn more money? Because you think it will make you happy.

Why do you want to lose weight? So you can look better, feel better…and be happy.

Why do you want to be married? So you can have someone to share your life with and be happy.

Many of the things we say we want are simply items, relationships or accomplishments that we think will bring about happiness in our lives. At least, we hope they will.

But I’m sure you know people who have all these things and are still miserable.

Why? Because they focus so much on getting to the next thing or on what’s still jacked up in their lives that they never focus on appreciating what they already have. They never focus on actually being happy.

It’s like this weird game of delayed gratification we play with ourselves. It’s like we won’t allow ourselves to be completely happy until we reach certain milestones, and even then whatever contentment we derive from that is quickly overshadowed by the race to the next goal or the fact that someone else has a better life than we do.

One problem is that the way we view happiness is in relation to others. Grama used to always warn me and my sister about trying to “keep up with the Joneses,” which just meant that instead of worrying about what the next person has, we should be grateful for what we had been blessed with.

In my own life, I’ve been thinking a lot about why I quit my job to work for myself as a consultant. I didn’t do it to make more money, but sometimes it seems like that’s all I worry about. If I get one more new client, I’ll make more money and then I’ll be happy. While I’m doing pretty well for myself so far, the money certainly isn’t guaranteed like that direct deposit I was getting in my account from my full-time job every month.

But the freedom I have now is priceless. It’s what I really wanted the whole time. Happiness for me right now is having the time and the energy to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. It’s not about getting to the next level. This IS the next level. And I’m reminding myself to enjoy every moment of it. Because the joy, not the thing, is the point.

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